Tuesday, August 25, 2009

Five Things That Women Hate in Bed

I believe that none of men could possibly be proud of being called “boring lover”, and none of the women would like spend their lives or even just one night with a “stallion” with such a reputation. Therefore, we are here to help you with a several tips on how avoid such a “label” on your back. Here are five things that women really hate in their sex life:

Don’t be too careful

The phrases like “can I?” are NOT sexy. They just kill the mood. A good lover knows how to let the woman know their next step and how to prepare her for it with no questions asked. Sometimes it is enough just to look in “undressing” way or a provocative touch your girlfriends’ body to give a signal for sex.

“Mechanical sex”
Most women would agree that sex with no passion is boring, just a time spent with no particular reason. No woman wants to become an “inflatable woman” (perhaps only with a very little exception). I’m not saying that every sex you have has to be exclusively tremendous, but just don’t ignore the fact that every woman want to be a “woman” and it's always a good idea to keep that in mind. Be sensitive and sometimes not just have sex, but also “make love” to her.

Monotony
If your girlfriend or wife know every crack in your ceiling – you are in a huge trouble. But don’t panic yet. A simple change of a place will help you out. Try doing it in your bathroom, kitchen, your car or even on a beach (of course find a place with no viewers), the possibilities are endless. Turn on your imagination.

Moaning and talking
Too loud moaning as well as too quiet is irritating for women. The silence is also not an option. You have to play careful here. Try to find the “golden middle” and to express your feelings to your girlfriend but not to all the neighbors. Try not to use all the same words during the sex as well, try to find phrases how to say how sexy she looks, how great she is in bed you don’t have to repeat all the same three words, which we all are so afraid of.

Unwillingness to experiment
If you are in a long-term relationship, don’t be afraid to experiment. Sex life does get boring, and there is a lot you can do about it. Try different positions, role-playing give a freedom to your fantasies. Do whatever you want to if your partner agrees with it, and if it would spice up your love life.

Discuss you fantasies with your partner at the glass of a good wine, and you would be surprised how fast they can turn into reality.

Friday, August 21, 2009

Sex in Marriage

Married sex is sex that involves two whole people with their thoughts, emotions, and bodies in a state of delightful, committed physical intimacy. The entire point of the sexual act lies in loving each other. In the marriage bed, we don't "make love," we give love, physically, to our spouses.

It's not surprising, then, that the same things that interfere with mental and emotional love, can also interfere with sex and the sexual response. Common culprits include:


ANXIETY. It is hard to be naked and vulnerable when you are nervous around your spouse for any reason. Think of it. If you belittle your spouse or make fun of them in any way, why would they be eager to hop in bed with you? But when a spouse feels secure in the marriage--feels that this relationship and this person is a place of emotional and physical safety--the instinct to cover and hide will fade away.

When a person is anxious for a reason that has nothing to do with the marriage, that anxiety can still interfere with the sexual relationship. Fear makes the necessary relaxation impossible. So can a situation, project, or decision that dominates one spouse's mind. In all cases, the cause of the anxiety needs to be addressed first, to remove the block to sex.

FATIGUE. A wise couple will monitor the outside demands on their time and energy, and work to make sure they have time and energy for each other. They do something as simple as go to bed earlier, or even midday when they can, or have sex first thing in the morning.

Wednesday, August 19, 2009

More Sex for Less Erectile Dysfunction

Sex Reduces Risk of Erectile Dysfunction
Older men should have more sex to prevent erectile dysfunction, according to a new study. That’s right, scientists are recommending that older men have more sex. This is fabulous news -- sex is healthy! In fact, having sex three or more times a week seems to be the best way to prevent erectile dysfunction. Personally, that sounds like a pretty good thing to work in to a “healthy lifestyle."

What is Erectile Dysfunction?

Well, basically it means not being able to have an erection or not being satisfied with the erections you have (e.g., not firm enough). What happens is that as men age, their blood pressure goes up and other cardiovascular problems happen. Erections depend on a gush of blood to the penis. When there are heart problems, there is often erectile dysfunction.

More Sex, Less Erectile Dysfunction RiskResearchers took about 1,000 Finish men aged 55 to 75 and asked them how many times a week they had sex. All the men had "normal sexual function" at the beginning of the study. They then followed the men for five years (presumably studying other things as well). They found that men who had sex once a week or less had the highest risk for developing erectile dysfunction. Men who averaged sex once a week had half the risk, and men who had sex three times or more each week only had a quarter of the risk of developing erectile dysfunction.

The researchers believe that regular sex helps maintain blood vessel function in the penis. This is truly a case of “use it or lose it.” The study asked the men to report how often they were having sex (specifically, intercourse). The study did not go in to masturbation and erectile dysfunction or look out how orgasm frequency relates to overall health and longevity (read more about sex and longevity).


Monday, August 17, 2009

2 biggest sex mistakes men and women make

It’s no secret that many couples have mixed signals on exactly what their partner wants in the bedroom.
The sex mistakes women most often make:

1. Women don’t understand why men don’t like to cuddle.

Ian: After sex, men return to the pre-aroused state, women return to a semi-aroused state. For guys it’s a total system shutdown. We just want to crash, whereas women want to connect, cuddle, converse, even have more sex. Women shouldn’t assume that a guy is insensitive if he’s more inclined to snore than snuggle. He’s probably just shattered. Think of it as a compliment to the sex you just had.

Tracey: I disagree with this. I think men do like to cuddle! They’re just worried their partner might see it as weak and them as vulnerable. I think a lot of the time a man suggests sex, what they’re really after is the physical closeness a cuddle would provide


2. Women don’t understand the extent to which performance anxieties, self-esteem issues and body-image issues all affect male sex drive.

Ian: Absolutely. Guys have many of the same issues as women when it comes to sex: feeling out of shape, unattractive, not wanting to be seen naked during sex. I worked with one guy who always had to rush to put on his boxers after sex and could never cuddle naked. His wife didn’t know what was going on. Turned out he felt very “smallish” after sex.
Also, when guys are stressed out about work/financial issues, it often leads to a shutdown of desire. In both men and women, low self-esteem equals low desire.

Tracey: Men aren’t robots. They’re humans and worry about the same stuff females do. Also there’s pressure on men to provide good sex to women. They expect a lot from men in bed these days, and often expect men to be mind readers, rather than tell them what they want. I’m not surprised men get anxious and their libido dips.

Thursday, August 13, 2009

Increase Your Sex Drive With Food

Throughout history, many foods, drinks, and behaviors have had a reputation for making sex more attainable and/or pleasurable. An aphrodisiac is a substance which is used in the belief that it increases sexual desire. In particular, medical science has not substantiated claims that any particular food increases sexual desire or performance.

Food eating habits alter libido

Libido means a person's sex drive or sexual urge. Libido does vary from person to person, from female to male. General levels of libido & sex drive decrease slowly as people enter mid life. If you have a lower than normal libido, then eating the right types of foods and cutting down on the wrong foods can help to increase your libido and rebuild your sex drive.Libido is controlled by hormone levels, with testosterone being the key. If the balance is off, things may not function as they should. Testosterone production is dependent on zinc and vitamin B, which are abundant in many foods. But, as nutritional deficiencies increase with age, it needs increase in the intake of these vitamins and minerals. So, adding a few foods can boost your libido especially when combined with a little regular exercise.
Libido-boosting foods

There are various claims about libido-boosting foods. But there's some sound science, too. They've been acclaimed to increase sex drive, boost arousal, and put men and women in the "mood" for hundreds of years. But the critics consider aphrodisiacs—foods, drinks, and now cleverly marketed extracts and supplements—to be more mental than physical.

Watermelon

A study suggested that watermelon may have Viagra-like effects on the body. But the findings don't exactly mean that eating watermelon could boost libido or treat erectile dysfunction.Watermelon contains large amounts of the plant nutrient citrulline, which is known to have favorable effects on the cardiovascular and immune systems. The chemical can relax blood vessels and improve blood flow, in much the way Viagra's active ingredient does. But, the researchers say, it isn't as organ specific as Viagra. Also, most of watermelon's citrulline is found in the inedible rind of the fruit.


Avocado

Avocado contain high levels of folic acid, helping to metabolize proteins. They also contain vitamin B6, helpful in increasing male hormone production. In addition potassium is found in avocado which aids in regulating the female thyroid gland, this helps enhance female libido levels.

Hot peppers

A group of alleged aphrodisiacs includes cayenne and other chili peppers. Its effect on the body may be more discomfort inducing than arousing. The fiery fruits contain varying levels of a chemical irritant called capsaicin, which, when ingested, causes an increase in heart rate and breathing, sweating, and blood flow—similar to the body's response to sexual arousal.

Chocolate

Perhaps the most famous—and most studied—of the aphrodisiacs is chocolate. A 2006 study found that women who habitually ate chocolate on a daily basis reported higher sexual function scores than those who did not. Interestingly, there was no difference between the groups in sexual arousal or satisfaction. Still, it's believable that chocolate contains a little love magic: Chocolate has phenylethylamine and serotonin, two chemicals that light up pleasure areas in the brain. So, chocolate is similar to sex in that it makes you feel good.

Alcohol

Alcohol, a false aphrodisiac, merely lowers inhibitions and raises the level of one's irrationality. Even worse, booze and other party drugs such as cocaine and ecstasy contribute to erectile dysfunction. These drugs effect blood flow by their actions on arteries and veins and [negatively] impact testosterone levels, and thus libido. A few drinks are fine, but relying on alcohol to get in the mood could be a sign of a deeper problem.

Banana

It is a great energy giving food source. It contain the bromelain enzyme, which is believed to improve male libido. The phallic shape is said to be partially responsible for the banana being popular as an aphrodisiac food. However, they are rich in potassium and B vitamins like riboflavin which are necessary for testosterone production.



Monday, August 10, 2009

How to Hit the Best Sexual G Spot Position

Iit is true there are good ways of having sex and then there are great ways of having sex. We are going to focus on the best ways for you to hit the G Spot. It is important to know that having sex for three minutes is not going to doing it. You must find these great tips on sexual positions useful in your love making and you should use them frequently.

Step 1

The most important thing is to communicate so that you will be on the same page and you will know together what is working and what is not.

Step 2

The G Spot is a small area that is located behind the pubic bone and when stimulated properly will allow the woman to have an awesome orgasm. You need to play with your woman to find out exactly where hers is located. It is a good idea to explore but to be gentle when doing this.

Step 3

When having sex there are several good positions that will help you in achieving that G Spot climax you are looking for. When using the standard missionary position you need to make sure that the girl lifts her hips to a higher elevation, this will allow you for maximum penetration and pleasure.

Step 4

When you are on top of her you want to put some of your weight onto her. Most men try to have sex without putting any weight on the woman which is not a good thing. A woman likes to feel a man on top of her and to feel the pressure of hid pelvic pressed against her is a great way to hit that G Spot quicker.

Friday, August 7, 2009

13 Fast Facts About Sex

Sometimes, you just want it hard and fast.

And the same goes for becoming sex-savvy in seconds. The following sex facts will help satisfy your desire to be in-the-know via instant gratification.

1. Prepare to have your mind blown – literally.

Reaching the “Big O” can feel like your brain has blown a fuse. With that three-pound brain of yours being the seat of your orgasms — PET scans have revealed that several parts of the conscious brain shut down during climax. And as luck would have it, one area of the brain that "switches off” is the part that controls fear and anxiety.

2. Opt for chocolate.

Research out of the U.K. found that this sweet treat causes a more intense and longer lasting “buzz” than kissing, doubling one’s heart rate.

3. Before reaching for that Viagra

Consider that ejaculation and orgasm don’t require erection. According to "The Science of Orgasm," a penis can be totally flaccid, but a male can still experience emission and climax.

4. You may just have to become a feminist.

Feminists do it better. According to a Rutgers 2007 study, feminists have better sex and relationships.

5. It’s not always sexy to be a Casanova.

Like her, he may want to think twice before sleeping around. Sex with multiple partners can increase a male’s risk of cancer and other diseases by 40 percent.

6. Second-guess the circumcision-cancer connection.

While the U.S. medical establishment claims that circumcision prevents cancer of the cervix, British doctors say it ain’t so. The Brits point to the fact that women in countries where men aren’t circumcised have no higher rate of cervical cancer than women in America. Not surprisingly, less than 10 percent of newborns in the United Kingdom are snipped.

7. When “getting some,” play selectively hard-to-get.

According to reinforcement theory, our attraction to another is based on the ratio of the number of positive reinforcements a person gives us versus the total number of reinforcements and punishments given.

Bottom line: People who are frequently nice are more likely to win over a partner.

8. Tampering with one brain system tampers with another.

More than 100 million prescriptions for antidepressants are written yearly in the U.S. Yet users end up trading in one dilemma for another. These SSRIs suppress one’s dopamine circuit, killing your sex drive and orgasm and attachment abilities.

9. Socioemotional meanings are conveyed in human sweat.

Huh? All you need to know is that a recent Rice University study found that women process and encode sexual meanings from the sweat of men. The brain recognizes chemosensory communication in sizing up sexual quality.

10. Bisexuals are likelier to use both hands.

Research in Psychological Bulletin reports that bisexual men and women report particularly high levels of ambidextrous hand preferences.

11. A sneeze may indicate sexual arousal.

A study in the Journal of the Royal Society of Medicine suggests that a mix-up in brain circuitry may send an individual into a sneezing fit at the thought of sex. Researchers also learned that certain individuals sneeze after orgasm.

12. Bisexual women take more risks.

Research out of the Guttmacher Institute found that bisexual female college students are likelier to engage in risky sexual behavior than heterosexual or lesbian women. Data on nearly 30,000 females 18- to 24 years old also revealed that bisexuals are likelier to have had a sexually transmitted infection in the past year.

13. Her brain responds more strongly to masculine faces.

Researchers at Indiana University’s Kinsey Institute report that a female’s brain reacts differently to masculinized and feminized faces, especially when she’s closer to ovulating. The area of the brain activated is the anterior cingulated cortex, the region involved in decision-making and the evaluation of potential reward and risk.

Tuesday, August 4, 2009

How to Maintain a Friendship After Sex

Let's face it, sometimes a friendship turns into a sexual relationship, whether for one night only, or a few months. It might turn out that both parties want to go back to being friends. Is there a way to maintain the friendship after you have had sex with each other? Yes, it is possible, but it requires work and these little bits of advice. Don't worry, apply these steps on how to maintain a friendship after sex, and then see where you are at in your friendship.
  1. Talk to each other immediately after you have decided to stop having sex. Start to act like you used to before the romantic involvement was there. If you are really close, then ask each other how the other person is feeling about stopping the sexual involvement.

  2. Be careful when it comes to dating other people right away. Although you may not love each other in 'that' way, one of you might have feelings that get hurt when the other rushes off immediately into a sexual relationship with someone else. Be kind and respect each other.

  3. Continue to spend time together, but always include other friends so that you don't get into an awkward and intimate situation. Socialize and enjoy everyone. Turn your focus to building other friendships, but continue with your friendship with each other, if that's what you both want.

  4. Maintain your regular schedule and keep going on with your lives. It's alright to do things together, but avoid getting together every day. You will only be tempted to have sex with each other. This is hurtful if one of you wants to continue the intimate relationship, while the other wants a platonic friendship.

  5. Plan activities with each other like going to events. Do things together that do not fall into the dating category like movies, dinner and drinks.

Sunday, August 2, 2009

Stimulating sex at 50 plus!

Many men and women find that the ageing process affects their sexual response, but this doesn't mean that more mature couples can no longer enjoy sexual activity. Here are some hints and tips on how to have richer and more satisfying sex in your golden years

It's important to remember that sexual satisfaction may take a little longer as you age, which is actually no bad thing, especially as this means more foreplay, more creativity and more talking - which all leads to greater sensual pleasure, whatever your age!

Stimulation techniques
Try to avoid focusing on genital arousal alone, and think about stimulating each other in different ways, such as through mutual masturbation or massage. Have fun learning how to enjoy touching one another in ways that do not involve genital stimulation.

This may seem difficult at first because you have to re-programme your sexual habits and 'norms'. During youth, sexual arousal just seems to happen, often without too much stimulation. As you get older, you need to change your sexual behaviour and have the courage and confidence to be more creative through touch.

Accommodate changes
Part of this process is accepting and accommodating the ways in which our bodies change over time. For example, a woman's vagina often loses some of its elasticity and some women experience a change in lubrication levels, which can cause vaginal discomfort during sex.

Men also find that their penis can lose some of its sensitivity; there is often a fall in testosterone levels and some vascular changes. Many men complain of a change in the orgasmic experience and that they ejaculate smaller amounts.

That said, none of the above should prevent older couples from being sexually intimate with one another, if they want to be.

Lasting libido
The importance we attach to sex remains high even as we age. Around 80 per cent of men and 60 per cent of women between the ages of 40 and 80 still regard sex as an important part of their lives, and more than half continue to have sex every week.

Unfortunately, even though interest in having sex remains strong, a man's risk of suffering erectile dysfunction increases threefold between the ages of 40 and 70.

If you find that your partner's erection is not rigid enough for vaginal penetration and your arthritic knees mean you can't manage the same sexual positions as before -it's time to have a frank chat with each other about how you are going to manage sexual activity. There is nothing to be anxious or embarrassed about. Chances are that you have been together for a very long time, and you can only become wiser and even more comfortable with one another after you have spoken about it.

Sexual response
Some women feel that they have no desire to have sex as they age, but still want lots of cuddles and to feel loved. Men love being able to gain an erection - even if it isn't as hard as it once was - and he can still achieve orgasm with a softer penis.

The reality is that elderly men often have strong sexual needs, but their penis doesn't always respond. If this occurs at any age, it is important to visit a doctor who will be able to explain why he might be having difficulties getting or maintaining an erection. He can also advise about the advantages of using a vaginal lubricant.

Some may find this a bit scary, but most couples are relieved to have talked their anxieties through with a health professional. There are so many excellent treatments available, ranging from pills to vacuum pumps and injection therapies, and your doctor will be able to find the right solution to your individual needs.

Top tips:
Here are a few tips on how to maintain sexual satisfaction with advancing age:

  • Timing: Sex after a good night's sleep or in the early afternoon is so much better than trying to stay awake after a long day when you are feeling tired
  • Take it slow: Sex is not a race, so there is no need to hurry the event. Try not to be under performance pressure to orgasm quickly. Take it slowly and enjoy the sensuality of lovemaking
  • Be creative: Explore different ways to pleasure one another. If you are thinking of trying a different sexual position, first try it with your clothes on and see if you feel comfortable, then you will feel less anxious when you are naked
  • Be open: If you don't discuss sexual activity when you are older, you risk losing all the intimacy in your relationship. And everyone, whatever age they are, deserves to have a hug.